The book will interest educators, researchers, and parents. As a student, I found myself drawn into the conversations, learning about outcomes from the perspectives of adult siblings. As a mother, the authors gently brought issues into my parental awareness which may otherwise have been neglected until our children were grown. While it may not necessarily provide all the answers, if we as parents wish for long-term positive sibling relationships for our children, this book shows us the questions we have to ask of ourselves – about the parents we want to be and the families we wish to create.

Journal of Deaf Studies and Deaf Education – reviewed by Jane Russell


Deaf families and deaf-hearing family dynamics have been the subject of a number of different literatures, including memoirs by d/Deaf people and studies of deaf young people. Berkowitz and Jonas´s is unique among them for offering the perspectives of both deaf and hearing people from the same family in the same text. The reader is privy to both the tension and the tenderness that exist in this important and understudied example of one of the most common and important human relationships, that of siblings.

Disability Studies Quarterly – reviewed by Joan M. Ostrove

Together, the authors present an intriguing, well-rounded body of research that is further informed by their own personal experiences


Berkowitz and Jonas provide extensive background information helpful to those unfamiliar with the deaf world and culture. This text provides a compelling perspective on adult sibling relationships, with its focus on how deafness and disability tends to affect them

Library Journal

Lots of history is recounted here as well as well researched study of siblings. Read this if you want to know more about deaf culture or need to find some understanding of your deaf sibling.


In a wonderful combination of academic writing and storytelling, Marla Berkowitz and Judith Jonas convey the unique challenges that deaf children and their hearing siblings encounter. I never thought about what happens when siblings cannot easily communicate in the same language. The book explains why learning sign language is so important for ALL members of the family, and why forcing oral communication for deaf children isolates them unnecessarily.

       –Onnie Schiffmiller,